TRIGGER WARNING: LONG POST, MIXED METAPHORS
Everydaymisogyny.com is a site I try to avoid/ignore/forget about because its very existence serves to remind me what a pathetic, embarrassing, whiny, narcissistic, useless cock-centric waste of time and thought liberal “feminism” is. In fact, the very bowels of liberal feminism are represented by Everydaymisogyny.com and, frankly, it’s fucking depressing – not just because it’s stupid and worthless, but because it demonstrates how completely lost young women are, how completely void of a political analysis they are, how deeply brainwashed they are by the men at the helm of the gender cult.
Let’s just be honest: feminism is dead. What the dominant culture calls feminism is a zombified version of the actual thing – a word that’s been made palatable for men, that’s been glittered over, the brains sucked out, and sold back to young women in the form of empowerment through fucking for money, sucking dick, and kissing the asses of men who have appropriated woman-hating stereotypes in order to calm the waters of their deeply troubled gender-obsessed psyches. A plasticized shell of feminism has been sold back to women. And women, sadly, have bought it.
The thing is, Liberal Feminism is easy.
Liberal feminism resigns itself to the status quo: men are in charge, they always will be, deal with it. Liberal feminism reinforces antiquated hierarchies – ladies think/feel/do x, guys think/feel/do y. Liberal feminism, not unlike the Religious Right, derides science and medicine and plain facts when they do not align themselves neatly with our fragile feelings.
Liberal Feminism is a religion that, like all religions, operates and thrives on blind faith.
Liberal Feminism is about sheer complacency – and complacency feels better. It feels better to not have to engage in a political/class analysis. It feels better to turn inward, obsess and theorize about the self incessantly. And when we are so turned inward, we can’t see – much less name or identify — the bigger, more malicious schisms at play.
Liberal Feminism is fun, is mental Cheetos – Cheetos are fucking great, but if you subsist on them, eventually you’ll get gout or worse.
Here’s the truth: no gain women, as a class, have ever achieved has come as a result of being “nice,” of pandering to men’s feelings. No gain women, as a class, have ever achieved has come as a result of embracing the very stereotypes that exist to weaken us, to trivialize our lives. No gain women, as a class, have ever achieved has come as the result of centering the needs of men. That’s not how it works. And liberal feminists can scream about “intersectionality” until they’re blue in the face, but that term, when applied to feminism, simply means “play nice, center men, forget your needs as a class, because the very notion of ‘woman’ is nothing more than a feeling, a spectre, a hunch – and you’re not all that important.”
Liberal Feminism is empty, is “for everyone” therefore it’s not for anyone, not a cohesive movement, there is no center. For example, to return to the Cheetos metaphor, if I buy a bag of Cheetos and say “These are my Cheetos, but they’re also for my dog, my cat, my brother, that dude in the pirate suit over there, and Ron Jeremy” then are they my Cheetos? No. They’re everyone’s Cheetos. Fuck, even though I paid for them, I’ll probably not even GET any Cheetos because I’ve offered the bag to everyone.
However, because I’ve shared my Cheetos I’ll be seen as nice (important for ladies), and my dog, my brother, and Ron Jeremy will be happy because they got Cheetos for free, because I paid for them. And oh, sisters, you are already paying for the shitty Cheetos that you do not even get to enjoy. Trust me.
Transgenderism is an outgrowth of the Liberal Feminism, one mushroom that grew out of the “everybody and everything” compost heap we now call “feminism.”
Transgenderism asserts that “a woman is whatever a man says it is.” (And yes, the use of “it” is deliberate. Because when you assert that female is a feeling, that the word means whatever anyone says, then female is no longer an actual human being, but an empty, malleable it – an object, a thing.) This way of thinking is very convenient for men. Very convenient for patriarchy. This way of thinking SEEMS novel, but in fact, this is really a very old, tried and true way of keeping women in their place.
And transgenderism has allowed men to dictate what is important, what ought to be prioritized by women: 1) a man’s need to be seen as a woman is super important 2) validation of males’ “lady feels” is of cardinal importance 3) identities trump female reality. Liberal Feminism, therefore, has devolved into nothing more than a gigantic costume party where all the attendees are complimenting one another, marveling at the garb: Hey, everybody! I’m a pansexual demi-boi! Viva la revolucion!
I’ve written considerably on this blog about the degree to which men work to control language. Language control is essential for any group wishing to remain in power. Men shape language. Men dictate how language will be used. This ability to craft and direct language is practically the birthright of all men. We see this “right” exercised often by transgender activists – almost all male – who are tirelessly insistent about how women may and may not discuss their bodies, their realities. In order for men to satiate their need to have their invented female identities validated, they must ensure that women discuss “female” in a way that suits this need. If we are to say that penis is male, then we are not accommodating the fantasy of males who believe they are female. If we say that women menstruate, then we are not accommodating the fantasy of males who believe they are female. Et cetera. Et cetera.
Oh, and cleverly, if we do not twist and warp our language to placate men, we are called “transphobic bigots.”
In any case, back to Everydaymisogyny.com. I actually found the article that inspired this post somewhat refreshing in its blatant honesty. I, and other women who see this issue as I see it, have known for quite some time that one of the aims of transgenderism (a “movement” founded by men, for men) was to completely dismantle feminist theory and thought.
This strategy makes sense: if you are trying to convince women that their reality is “a suspicion,” if you are trying to convince women that their femaleness is little more than a vague notion, a concept, a theory, then you simply cannot allow feminist theory, dialogue, action to exist.
Feminism, in its purest form, acknowledges the reality of women’s lives. Feminism, at one time in history, acknowledged that women and girls are a class of people. Feminism, at one time, acknowledged that gender is a harmful, socially mandated performance designed and perpetuated by males to subjugate women.
Real feminist thought, therefore, poses a real, discernable threat to men (and women) who have embraced the junk-science of “lady brain,” who have become convinced that female is nothing more than a feeling, who have, by way of male entitlement, come to believe that it is their RIGHT to claim womanhood for themselves, that it is their RIGHT to have their feelings validated, and that any woman who dare notice the ruse, who question the faith, is a bitch, a bigot, a TERF.
So feminism must be dismantled.
Now, women know – whether or not they want to admit it – that feminism, historically, has done good things for women, so while many women are happy to prioritize transgenderism, most women would not be all-too-eager to get on board with a “kill feminism” movement (though, ostensibly, that’s what’s happened/is happening). So, the culture, dictated by males and males-who-feel-like-ladies, has sold women something called Feminism – a sort of snake oil for true feminist theory and praxis. We’ve been sold a bottle of water, labeled water, that is actually a container full of antifreeze: But it says WATER, so I’ll keep drinking it!
And so, finally, at last, Everydaymisogyny.com has published a forthcoming, honest piece by an MtT in which it is made clear that feminist terminology, feminist language, feminist thought must die in order that men can lead happier lives. I’m not linking to the piece, but you can feel free to Google it.
Here are some choice moments from the piece, accompanied by my thoughts:
A month ago, I cried for the seventh time this year. – Powerful opener. Know why he was crying? Because he had to call TWO numbers before finding the proper nail salon. Can you imagine, sisters? I mean HOW FUCKING HORRIFIC. Basically, the author spends the first few paragraphs of the piece lamenting the fact that women have eyes and ears and know he is male.
He then goes on to acknowledge the many gains men have made:
We now have enough visibility and support to write our own books, host our own news segments, and star in television series. This has led to many conversations between trans women and cis women to build solidarity. – Men now write books! Host news segments! Star in television series! Can you believe this, sisters? What times we live in! Oh, brave new world!
And then it gets honest. Then, the author selects a few feminist phrases that he thinks should no longer exist, because they hurt his feelings and the feelings of other men who feel like ladies. For example, he thinks we should no longer use the term “female-bodied.” It gives him sads.
This is a step towards unlearning that penises equates to maleness. That our breasts, whether flat or hormone-grown or implanted, are our breasts and just as natural as any other breast. – Look here, sisters. There are some things YOU need to UNLEARN. Namely, basic biological concepts. Know why you need to unlearn this? Because it HURTS MENS FEELS WHEN YOU KNOW THINGS ABOUT YOUR BODY. This man is here to tell you that it is VERY IMPORTANT that women no longer have language to accurately talk about their bodies and biological functions. This man wants to make sure that we no longer know how to name our anatomy because when we are able to discuss our physiology, it HURTS MENS FEELS. God!
*Sidenote: there is a reason why Our Bodies, Ourselves was so fucking revolutionary and important when it was first published, like, thirty years ago (which, historically, is a fraction of a second): WOMEN DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO TALK ABOUT THEIR BODIES. Fuck, women STILL don’t know how to talk about their bodies, but here is some guy trying to sell you on the idea that you OUGHT NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR BODY because it ruptures the cozy gender bubble that floats him through life.
Not recognizing our bodies as naturally female supports a patriarchal culture that defines what a woman’s body is. –Translation: it hurts my feelings that my penis isn’t a female body part.
In other news, it hurts my feelings that cigarettes are bad for me.
He further explains why we should no longer say “female identified,” and bemoans the fact that women don’t have to pretend to be women:
[Female identified] is usually used to be inclusive with the thought being “If you identify yourself as a female, you can be in this space.” Except, do cis women have to exert their womanhood as often as we do? No, not nearly so. – Sorry to break it to you, brother, but I don’t have to “exert my womanhood” because I am a fucking woman. End of story. If I identified as a man, I’d likely have to EXERT my manhood, because I’m not a man. If I identified as a parakeet, I’d have to work really fucking hard to exert my parakeet-hood. Life is unfair like that.
Oh, but he has a simple solution to this problem:
The solution is simple: Advertise that your space is for “trans and cis women,” and we will all come. [. . .] Instead of saying trans women are welcome to an event run by cis women, have actual trans women in leadership positions to create the events that center and support us. – Are you seeing this, sisters? PUT MEN IN CHARGE of women’s events. CENTER their needs. It is THAT SIMPLE.
(Seriously though, I really do appreciate the honesty of this piece.)
Then, of course, he addresses the super problematic terms Womyn and Wombyn (which almost no one ever uses, and which I think are kind of stupid anyway, but not nearly as stupid as this author’s “analysis”):
Whether a woman has a womb or not, her womanhood shouldn’t be dependent on what she produces. – Yes, sir. That’s kind of a basic feminist conceit. You didn’t invent that.
“Womyn” was created to de-center “man” from the spelling of woman. It was a feminist and political move to create spaces that focused on women’s issues. In theory, this is a great idea! – Translation: In theory de-centering men is a great idea – EXCEPT that it de-centers men!
Take the Michigan’s Womyn Festival for example. They’re celebrating their 40th anniversary this upcoming August and yet, they are still exclusionary to trans women after being called out multiple times. – Here, the author links to an Advocate article that “calls out” MichFest. I love the deference paid by liberal feminists and trans activists to woman-hating gay orgs and publications like The Advocate. Oooh, The Advocate “called out” Michfest – who fucking cares? Since when is The Advocate an authority on anything? Since when should women give a fuck what The Advocate has to say about anything? But if you want to see The Advocate as some ethical arbiter, some moral compass, rock on, idiot.
No tran-splanation would be complete without an attempt to debunk the “myth” of male privilege:
Simply put, you must be male to benefit from male privilege. Trans women aren’t male, so we don’t benefit from male privilege and never have. – There’s never any evidence or real, thoughtful analysis to back up this claim. Never. “Trans women aren’t male.” – We’re supposed to take that on face value, just accept it because some dude is saying it is so.
“Here, this antifreeze is water. Chug-a-lug!”
Yes, it is true that cis and trans women have different experiences. Our womanhoods are vastly different. [. . .] I know the stakes of being a trans woman are higher in terms of extreme violence, death, and suicide (and again, we’re barred from accessing critical resources for women, thus leaving us more vulnerable). – 1) Our “womanhoods” are vastly different because you’re a man. 2) Right. Right. Right. 1 in 2 trans women are murdered. 99% of trans people kill themselves. All of this is the fault of mean women who have eyes and critical thinking skills. YAWN. Got it. NEXT.
My cis women friends have learned how to listen to my experiences and validate what doesn’t reflect their own without any qualifications. – Translation: my female friends just accept what I say because they’ve been trained their whole lives to defer to men, and because they’ll be called bigots if they don’t take every word out of my mouth as gospel.
So there you have it. Finally, a piece where a trans writer is admitting what many of us have known – the remaining detritus of feminism has to be burnt away so that men can fully live out their gender fantasies. At least he’s being honest.
Enjoy your Liberal Feminist movement, y’all.